We might live in a society that is more open and positive about sex than ever before, but one expert says we’ve still got a long way to go.

Even if you think you’re not kinky, there’s a chance your brain might be. And when it comes to getting turned on and orgasmic, our brains deserve more credit than they often get.

am my husband sex slave. I loved being told what to do. I stay nude 24/7. The only time I wear any clothing is when we go out. Then husband tells me what i can an not wear. Most of the time it a short dress with nothing on under it. When husband comes home I have his dinner ready.

I'm ok with all of these examples except for rape fantasy. Having once had such fantasies myself, and acted upon them to my ultimate detriment, I can say with certainty that they are not healthy urges to encourage. One can learn to feel the same thrill from a trusted dominant sex partner without involving rape in the encounter at all. The problem I have with rape fantasy is how describing it leads to oxymoron: you are trying to have consensual sex about a non-consensual scenario. Not only that, but you are basically getting off on being abused. People with a healthy self-esteem do not get turned on by their own abuse. I had to learn that the hard way. Just because a lot of women have rape fantasies does not mean it is good for you or anyone.

I relate SOOOOO much!! I want to try maybe a threesome with my best friend and his girlfriend, but I could never tell my S.O. because he's so traditional, and I feel like he would judge me and then our own sex life would suffer. I also can't afford that because we only have sex like once a month...the last time was after 2 months (we go to different colleges), and I love him way too much to jeopardize that. (An aside: I don't say the "L" word lightly either, I've known him for 5 years and dated him for 2 of them, I really do love him)
I'll tell him some time down the road, but after a few drinks maybe